Chasing Pavements

As I look at him, I can see so much potential, so much life, so much joy, a diamond in the rough, but he can’t see that in himself, he continues to stumble back to the arms of the one who turned him, the one who destroyed his belief in love, the one who may very well end up being the death of him, why does he not comprehend this circumstance. Why does he not wake up from this nightmare that continues to plague his life, the nightmare that constantly robs him of his peace of mind?

I finally listened to the lyrics of the song he wanted me to listen to, it was Chasing Pavements by Adele, as the song played, my eyes were filled with tears, simply because I knew he already chose his path, but in my heart I knew he was chasing pavements.  So this leaves me with the same question, should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements, even if it leads nowhere in this friendship? Or should I just leave him to self-destruct?

Somehow I always find myself in these friendships, you know the kind where you put yourself on the line for a friend but end up being shredded to pieces in the end? And this is where reality hit me, the same way he kept going back to that person who is causing him pain, is the same way I keep drawing these type of friendship for myself.

So here is my stand, from this day forward I refuse to chase pavements, I refuse to open up my heart to the people that does not deserve it, I refuse to be taken advantage off and I refuse, I repeat I refuse to throw my pearls to swine, I know my worth. A friendship, whether casual or romantic should be a relationship where both parties are on common grounds, it should never be bartered or traded. So I refuse to chase pavements once again. I know I may sound selfish here, but think of it, when he keeps answering his past, where does that leave me? Exactly! Chasing pavements.

Temptation

The dictionary defines Temptation as “the act of tempting or the state of being tempted especially to evil”. We as human beings go through temptation of every form on a daily basis. Some of us control our temptations and some of us let our temptations control us. I find myself in the category of letting temptation control me. What I have learned so far is that, unless you make up your mind and really want to control your temptations, then it will continue to rule you.

As children of God we are supposed to be the rulers of the world, but why are we letting the pleasures of this earth rule us? Many Christians today have given temptation free liberty in their lives, and because of this we are seeing a lot of failed marriages, broken families and even loss of respect for our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. How many of us are guilty of the dangers of temptation.

What are we really doing? Where are we going? And most importantly who are we serving? Are we serving ourselves or are we serving Jesus? Now I know learning to control your temptation is no easy task, this I know from experience, but we serve a mighty God and if we just let him take control I think we can get through this.

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What If

For years “what ifs” have been plaguing our very existence, and for years we have allowed our lives to be dominated by the affairs of our past. Do you ever just sit and think of the “what ifs” in your life? For example, what if you did not fall for that person, what would be your situation right now? Had you not followed that crowd where would you be? If the courage to speak up were within you, would that have made a difference? For most of us, if you had just listened, what would be your position at this exact moment? We all have questions like these running  through our minds ever so often, and sometimes it is frightening us more and more with every thought, simply because we knew the potential we had before getting involved with the wrong company or putting ourselves in the wrong situations.

Ask yourself this question, what good is it doing you dwelling on your past? For the past is gone and can never return, so why not look forward to the future? If you cannot see a bright future ahead of you, someone knows there is one for you. He allows you to wake up every morning to see new mercies; he protects you from that harm and danger that may be lurking around you. In addition, when you believe all hope is gone, he gives you another reason to thank him.

God is the author and finisher of your faith (Heb 12:2), and as long as you wake up every morning to see his glory, give him the praises that he deserves. Sometimes your situation may be a little overbearing, or so you may think, but your burdens are not yours to carry but his (Matt 11:28-30). Maybe just maybe, if you cry out to him and for once just ask for his help, just maybe your situation may change, you never know he may be calling you out of your situations, but you are the one just too stubborn to listen. As the saying goes “let go and let God” and start living your life the way you ought to.

Life

It’s amazing how much we let people get to us. It’s amazing how we allow situations to change our plans and purpose in life, and it’s amazing how easily we let ourselves get distracted from our paths.

Sometimes life can be so unfair, the ones who work the hardest, are often the ones who get looked over, while the one’s who do nothing always get their way, or so it seems.

Each day we go through trials and tribulations, but instead of relying on God, we rely on our own understanding, and this is how fear takes dominance in our lives, we suddenly become distracted. Why do we let ourselves be defeated like this?

We should never  sit and pretend that  we do not feel like giving up sometimes, and we should never pretend that everything is just fine. What we should say however, is that as long as I am allowed another day in God's presence, I will keep trying till I get it right.

Happy New Year

Ok so we are literally some hours away from the New Year, you look back and realized that this year has not been kind to you, ok sure there were a few ups and downs, but why let it deter you? As the saying goes "Don't be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. If you can dream it, you can make it so." So what everything you planned for this year did not turn out as it should, you are alive, so that means you were given another opportunity to start afresh, or continue where you left off.

Every year we make resolutions, some of us the same ones, some of us different, and every year most of us fail by the first couple months, so why force yourself into a commitment, I mean if a relationship started off like this, how long do you think it would last? Relax, live your life and move to suit your occasion. Anything worth having is not easy, and anything that comes easy, is not always worth having.

So when the clock strikes 12 on Old Year's night and you realize that you have come to another year alone, don't feel bad, you are not alone, but that does not mean you have to give up. Or you still did not get that promotion you are counting for that you know you deserve, just wait, "God has perfect timing...Never early...never late...It takes a little patience...It takes a lot of faith" anonymous. Maybe you are looking forward to having a baby, but doctors have told you there is no hope, still thank God, because maybe, just maybe, there is a child out there who is waiting to love them in the way they need . Sometimes we are the ones who are keeping ourselves from moving forward because we are still in bondage of our past. Think about it. 

To everyone who has read this, I say Happy New Year to you, once you have breath, give God praise and never give up, you never know if your blessing could be right around the corner, the question is, how bad do you want it?